Tuesday, 22 March 2011

In a holding pattern....

I haven't visited our blog in 6 weeks or so. And for a while I wasn't planning on coming back at all. The last post (and if I am honest the whole blog) was posted for my Dad and my beautiful stepmum Marjie. For them to see the kids and our lives over this side of the country.

On Thursday 3rd February, I finally posted photos of our not-so-new house after Marjie had been nagging me and nagging me to do so. Ironic that I sent her an email that morning, excitedly telling her that I had indeed finally posted some shots of the house. Ironic because later that day she would have a horrific fall at home, slip into unconsciousness and never wake up.

As I boarded a plane early on Friday the 4th, I knew that they soon would be turning the machines off that were keeping her alive... and when I landed in Perth I got news that she had died peacefully.

I spent  the following 10 days at Dad and Marjie's house, grieving with family and friends, remembering and rejoicing in her life. On one of the last days we were there, I decided I would check to see if she had got my email I had sent about the blog update. I opened her email account, and immediately I could see that she had received and opened, my message. I then checked her browser history and she had indeed clicked on the link to here. Just an hour or so before her accident she had got to see the bloody photos she had hounded me about for so long. I was happy, relieved, and devastated all at once.

So anyway, I have decided to keep posting on here. Not only for my Dad who is lost, lonely and unfathomably consumed with his grief, but also for those family and friends who have supported me/us over the last 6 weeks, and continue to do so. Perhaps the best way to continue, is for me to post the backlog of 365project photos which I have tried diligently to capture most days, including the days immediately after Marjie's death. It gives me something to focus on anyway...

1 comment:

Melissa said...

That was a moving and heartbreakingly honest post Cass. I'm glad you've decided to continue with your blog - and I'm sure everyone else is too. Your photos are lovely and it's nice to see what you guys are up to. Marjie would have loved to continue seeing the parts of your lives that she didn't see on a daily basis as I'm sure your Dad will.

Much love

Mel
xx